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Life moves in ways we can’t predict. Everything is always changing. The desires you nearly convinced yourself to abandon may come to fruition in the most unexpected and miraculous ways… Continue Reading
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5 Little Tips to Help You Worry Less About What Others Think of You
Have you ever just sat and watched toddlers play? How free they seem to feel?
I love watching their excitement, their innocence, creativity, and their ability to just play without really caring about what others think of them.
As we grow up, the tendency to put weight on other’s opinions of us increases. Sure, it’s all right to want to behave in ways that are acceptable to others. Our parents and society teach us that good manners and doing the “right” things are important.
But it’s easy to get caught up in fretting and worrying about what others think about us. In fact, some people expend a lot of energy trying very hard to be seen as this way or that way by others, especially through social media.
I grew up in a time where computers and the internet were not on the scene. Still, I felt the pull to care A LOT about how others perceived me. I can’t even imagine how challenging it may be for the youth to grow up these days in the world of social media…
Ask Your Partner for What You Need: How to Start Practicing & Helpful Examples
It’s okay to have wants and needs.
This is something that many people forget about, thinking that they are doing something wrong if they need something. Or, they’re just afraid to ask for things, feeling like they’re not worthy to receive.
One thing that many couples talk about in therapy is not feeling heard or seen. There tends to be something that’s lacking in their listening and/or communication skills.
Common complaints may be:
You never hear me!
I feel invisible.
You don’t care.
I’m afraid to even ask you for anything.
You always cut me off.
You have no clue how I feel.
I feel alone in this relationship.
Any of those feel familiar to you?…
Quiet Work
"Healing in Private"
I’ve always believed that healing would be obvious.
I thought I would wake up one day and feel completely different; like I was lighter, clearer, unmistakably changed. I imagined healing would come as something people could point to and say, “There it is.”
It hasn’t worked that way.
Most of the real change in me has been quiet. It hasn’t altered my job or rearranged my life overnight. From the outside, I probably look the same. I still move through ordinary days, still handle the same responsibilities. Nothing dramatic has happened.
But internally, something has steadied.
There are moments now when I notice a familiar reaction rising in me, and I do not follow it. I feel it, and I let it pass. That small decision feels almost invisible, but it changes everything. It shifts the direction of my day and how I feel about myself.
No one sees my restraint. No one sees the internal effort it takes to interrupt an old pattern. They don’t see the pause before I speak or the choice not to chase reassurance.
And yet that is where the work lives.
I thought healing required something loud. I thought it meant cutting ties, making declarations, rewriting my entire life. Instead, it has meant staying present when I would have once escaped into reaction. It has meant tolerating discomfort without trying to control it.
The most meaningful progress I have made would not photograph well. It would not translate into a before-and-after story. It exists in subtle shifts; in the way I recover more quickly, in the way I question my assumptions, in the way I carry myself more securely.
This kind of growth can feel lonely sometimes, because it happens internally with no audience or validation. I can feel the difference though. There is less noise inside me, less urgency, and more room to breathe.
If you are doing work that no one else can see, it still counts. The quiet changes are often the deepest ones.
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I invite balance and alignment into my life.
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I reclaim my sense of joy in life… Continue Reading
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